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Wednesday, October 3, 2012

A Ruby Anniversary

From left to right: Mom, Dad, Karim, Minaz, Maji, Kahzmir, Aneez and me.
Celebrating Canada and all that we have accomplished in the last 40 years!

I’ve been working in the field of volunteer engagement for 12 years.  I can say with full confidence that I am living out my life’s purpose.  This is the only career I’ve ever known and for a member of Generation X, I might be one of those few people who doesn’t change careers multiple times in my life.  Why do I do what I do?  It all began 40 years ago today right here in Canada on October 3, 1972.  I wasn’t even born but this was a day that changed the course of my life forever.
Rewind 40 years and two months ago to August 4, 1972.  My Mom and Dad were both 25 years old and living in Tororo, a town in Eastern Uganda.  They were a young newlywed couple and 6 months pregnant with my oldest brother Karim.  Mom was a nurse and Dad had a blossoming career in hotel management and hospitality.   Their world was forever changed when former Ugandan President Idi Amin issued a decree expelling 60,000 Asians from their birthplace of Uganda.  This act of ethnic cleansing came with a condition of giving Ugandan Asians 90 days to leave the country or else.  Or else what?  I’m not sure really when I hear stories of police brutality, corruption, murder and abuses of the worst kind that took place immediately after the decree.   Luckily, my Mom and Dad had family in England and in Canada, two countries who had opened their borders to those that had been expelled.  My pregnant Mom went to England right away and stayed there to deliver my brother Karim.  Dad had planned to wrap a few things up before following my Mom to England so he could be there for the birth of my brother.  He was victim to his own individual hardships as a result of corruption amongst local authorities.  He’s only ever talked to me twice about a painful day that he experienced that had him escape to England sooner than he planned.  I can’t even imagine what my 25 year old Dad was going through and where he got the strength to envision a future for his family in Canada. 
Dad missed the birth of Karim and arrived on Canada on October 3, 1972 to set about building our family’s life.  Four months later, Mom and Karim joined Dad and for the first 6 years of their life in Canada, my parents grew their family (my brother Aneez came first and then me) and moved from one community to the next trying to figure out where they could work and where they as newcomers could establish security for their young family.
Today our family will celebrate 40 years of building a life and legacy in Canada.   My parents don’t really talk about leaving Uganda and what that was like for them.  Perhaps, at 25 they weren’t able to process all that was happening to them.  Maybe they are trying to protect us from realities they hope are never ours.  What I do know is that they’ve lived in Canada longer than anywhere else in their lives.  Canada is home.  Canada, a country built on immigrants, diversity and global influences is also a place where they learned to belong as newcomers through receiving kindness from volunteers.  Canada has also been a place where they can actively and freely contribute as volunteers.  My sense of belonging comes from witnessing my Mom and Dad in various incarnations as volunteers.  As new Canadians, they were leaders in the Canadian Scouting movement.  My Mom took on various leadership roles in our mosque.  My Dad chaired a provincial Association of Dry Cleaning Professionals and showed me what leadership looked like.  They’ve taken their decades old experience as newcomers and turned it into learning and support for newly arrived Central Asians to Canada.  My Mom spends her weekends promoting heart health in the South Asian community.  Dad visits a senior’s home once a week and has gone back to school to learn how to be a teacher so that he can compete for meaningful volunteer roles as he prepares for retirement. 
I do what I do because my life wouldn’t be the privilege it is today without the generosity and compassion of volunteers who paved the way for my parents.  I do what I do because there is no greater gift that we can give each other than a few moments of our time.  To facilitate that process for others is an honour.  I do what I do because volunteers and volunteerism are transformational on an individual, community and global level. I do what I do because the currency of kindness makes us all wealthier than we can ever imagine.    

My Dad and my Mom! 

Thank you Mom and Dad for giving us the gift of a home that is safe and diverse and full of opportunities.  I love you.

7 comments:

Minaz said...

A very happy 40th Canadian Anniversary to the Kanjis!

Vijay said...

Such a great story! Congratulations to your Mom and Dad on 40 years! :-)

Erin {pughs' news} said...

What a story. So glad it all worked out and that you're such proud Canadians, Faiza! I am always inspired by the great love you have for your family.

Happy 40 years!

Megan said...

Thank you so much for sharing this story - I loved seeing these photos on instagram but knowing the story behind the celebration has made it even sweeter. I am 25 in a couple of months and I cant even imagine being expelled from my country - you have a very strong family. It would be so easy to not want to give back to humanity after what has happened- your family is truelly inspirational, Canada is lucky to have you all!

cerebral e said...

What a wonderful story. I'm so glad your family are now safe and full of love.

Tima said...

Well that made me cry!

What a beautiful story. Your parents are incredible.

NYLON Girl said...

I just got round to reading this and it's such a familiar story to my parents one but you put the words much better than I could have. Happy 40th...here's to another happy 40 years for your mum and dad! See you soon missy xxx

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