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Thursday, February 13, 2014

The Proposal

Happy news!  Earvin proposed to me on New Year's Day.  I, of course, said YES!  We seem to recall the happy moment a little differently. Here's how it went down, according to both of us.

Faiza:  Last year on New Year's Day, I started a jar of gratitude. A few times a week, I would take a brightly coloured piece of paper and write down something I was thankful for. I used a set of Sharpies that Vanessa gave me for Christmas a few years ago.  They are strung up on a key chain Minaz gave me from her last trip to Africa.  I showed the jar to Earvin the first time he visited me in Toronto.  At many times throughout the year, he would contribute to the jar too.  It quickly filled up with notes, ticket stubs, photos and random items that marked happy moments throughout the year.

Earvin: The day Faiza explained her J.O.G. to me (Jar of Gratitude... I really enjoy acronyms) I said to myself, "What a creative and intelligent method of capturing memorable moments throughout the year!" At that moment I had no clue that I'd be making a special contribution of my own to it in a year's time.


Faiza:  I told Earvin that I would open the jar on January 1, 2014 and start the year by reading about all the wonderful things that had happened in the year that just went by.  So on New Year's Day, we emptied the jar onto our dining room table.  

Earvin: After tossing around several proposal ideas for months, a thought sprang out of nowhere one evening in late September... THE JAR OF GRATITUDE!!! It was almost too perfect - We'd be sitting next to each other, reminiscing about how far we'd come together, while revisiting all the wonderful memories that have helped to shape not only where we are but also who we are today... Without another moment of thought, I composed the note and placed it inside of the jar (NOTE: For those who didn't know, keeping an engagement ring hidden and a proposal note unread for 90+ days is pretty stressful stuff - Don't believe anyone who says otherwise, they'd be lying!)... Then on New Year's Day, the moment came.


Faiza:  I started reading aloud to Earvin one note at a time. It was so special to read about our first kiss, meeting each other's families, trips we had taken and times we had shared with friends and family.  I was definitely feeling grateful. I tried to get Earvin to take his pick of notes and read some too but he was content to let me take the lead here.

Faiza:  As we neared the end, I opened up one of the pieces of paper and it said "Will you marry me?"   I was confused so I showed the paper to Earvin and said something along the lines of "Hey, you wrote this. When did you fake propose to me?"  Earvin, ever so cool, said some wonderfully sweet things, pulled out a gorgeous ring and asked me to marry him.  I was so shocked!  I started shaking and crying.  I just couldn't believe it. I jumped onto his lap and held him tight and kissed him.  I kept asking him if he was serious. When it finally sunk in, he asked me whether my reaction meant "yes?"  OF COURSE IT DID!

Earvin: Over 100+ memories later, Faiza reached out and grabbed 'The Note'. At that moment I said to myself , "Please don't ask me to open this one... Please!" - Then she opened it herself and I was more than relieved. With my left hand out of sight clutching a brand-new diamond engagement ring, I received the most unexpected reaction after Faiza read my note... "Hey, I think you wrote this one. When did you fake propose to me?" - I didn't plan for this reaction at all - It wasn't one of the 574 scenarios I rehearsed in my mind! After a few heartfelt words and the presentation of her new hardware, I received the reaction I was looking for with a verbal "Yes" shortly thereafter... Hey, better late than never!


Faiza:  I gave Earvin the third degree and demystified the romance of his proposal (not really) by finding out when he put the note in the jar, where he kept the ring hidden in our home and how he had asked my parents for permission.



Faiza: And here we are in a perfectly good food coma.  Earvin had planned a romantic dinner on top of the Trump Tower.  He even had gorgeous roses waiting for us at our table.  My love is handsome.  I am so happy that I get to marry him. 


Later that night while we were sleeping, Earvin muttered in his sleep, "You took so long to say yes..."  I gave him a hug and thought to myself, "I waited so long for you.  Yes, yes, yes!"

6 comments:

Bianca J said...

Awh, man, that is so damn beautiful. I so enjoyed reading this and it's totally made my day. So thoughtful and clever. I hope the two of you have many more sweet memories like this to come. And I really should start my own JOG!

Tima said...

Awwwwww....love this. And am utterly impressed he was able to keep the secret for so long. And your parents too!!! Congrats again! xxx

Meghan said...

This is such a beautiful story! What a thoughtful, special proposal. I am SO incredibly happy for you, Faiza. It couldn't have happened to a sweeter gal!

Pamela said...

So beautiful! I am truly happy for you and my nephew!

Cece said...

Faiza! This is so beautiful and fitting. Congratulations!

Kirsten said...

Crying!!!! Loved reading this.

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